Miffed

Miffed. Annoyed. Frustrated. Fuming. Not happy.

Just some of the words that come to mind when trying to describe how I’m feeling right now, though ‘pissed off’ is probably the best word to use.

Why you ask?

Simple: I had to try really really hard today to NOT strangle my daughter’s hairdresser.

Let’s backtrack a little.

Lilly’s preschool starts tomorrow and the perfectionist in me thought it’d be a good idea to get her hair trimmed at the hair dressers instead of doing it myself (like I always do) because I didn’t want to risk messing it up.

I’m sure you can see where this is going.

Yup, the hair dresser managed to mess up Lilly’s hair. The silly woman wasn’t being careful and managed to take a chunk out of Lilly’s bangs, right in the middle of her forehead! I nearly screamed out loud when it happened, but there was nothing I could do; the damage was done.

So yes, I think it’s safe to say that I’m a tad miffed at the moment, and trying really hard not to go back to the hair dressers to murder that dolt of a woman.

On the bright side, at least Lilly is too young to care about a bad haircut and is as happy as ever, so there’s that.

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Don’t be THAT Guy

Like most (sane) people in the world, I believe misogyny and sexism are wrong and are issues that need to be addressed. That’s a normal stance to have. Sometimes though, you come across that special personality that is not only anti-misogyny, but deep within the realm of look-at-me-I’m-so-NOT-misogynistic-I-totally-deserve-an-award-for-this.

Unfortunately, these people are usually men. Annoyingly know-it-all, look-at-me-I’m-so-progressive men.

You know the kind of person I mean: the king of guy who will condescendingly inform you that appreciating your husband for taking on all the housework while you were unwell is silly because it’s your husband’s JOB to do so. Or that being a stay at home mom is somehow unfair to you even if you CHOSE to stay home and no one is forcing you to do so. Or that he’s such a progressive guy just because he doesn’t dictate his wife’s clothing choices.

Um, ok, so it’s not ok for me to appreciate my husband when he’s thoughtful and considerate but it’s ok for you to smugly announce how you AREN’T a giant misogynistic ass in your best I-totally-deserve-an-award-for-this voice?

Dear mister I-am-so-not-a-misogynist,

Not being a misogynistic ass does not earn you any medals, it just means you’re a decent human being. And buddy, if you feel the need to perpetually highlight how not misogynistic you are, you probably aren’t as awesome as you want people to give you credit for.

Nor does it give you a free pass to point out all the ways in which I , as a woman, am not making the right choices/am not indignant enough about imagined slights/am not ENOUGH of a feminist. Don’t loudly insist that I’m wrong to appreciate my husband doing the dishes when I was too tired to finish up because ‘its his job to do the dishes!’ Showing appreciation when someone is considerate does not make me an oppressed female you jackass, it just makes me a normal human being. And FYI, I expect the same sort of appreciation from my husband for everything I do, even if it is my ‘job’ to do so.

Equality of the sexes doesn’t mean everyone should be doing everything all the time, it means equality of choice, equality of opportunity and equality of access. My husband and I are equal because we both respect each others choices, opinions and preferences without letting our biological sex dictate what we each ‘should’ be doing. I have the choice and opportunity to work but I choose to be a stay at home mom and am grateful we can afford such a choice.

So please, don’t tell me what I SHOULD be doing, feeling or expecting, don’t pretend to know better than me what I want or prefer, and for god’s sake stop pretending that you’re doing women everywhere a favor by NOT being a misogynistic ass (which, by the way, you’re just lying to yourself about: you are a complete misogynistic ass).

End rant.

Toddler Logic vs Toy Company Logic

Toy company logic: Let’s make it teeny tiny, cute and completely useless, they’ll eat it up!

Toddler logic: I want that teeny tiny, cute and totally useless toy that I’ll forget about/lose within 4 hours of buying but am willing to throw a trantrum for right now!

Parents: … sigh

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Please tell me I’m not the only one who feels this way about this explosion of ‘toys’ like shopkins, tsum tsums, mashems, fashems and  the like 😖

Confirm Delete?

If one does not post regular pictures and updates on Facebook, does one still exist?

Quite a philosophical conundrum, isn’t it?

On the one hand, you can argue that since you’re very much alive and not a ghost or fire demon, you must in fact exist. On the other hand though, if there’s no one there to ‘like’ your vacation selfie, did that vacation happen anywhere but in your head?

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Who Are These People?

I don’t like to write about my faith, not because I’m afraid of saying that I am Muslim, but because this blog is simply not the platform for that discussion. Today though, I will talk about my faith.

Why?

Because the only so-called Muslims who seem to talk about their ‘faith’ are the ones who aren’t even Muslim. Who are these people? Who are these depraved individuals who think that God would condone or reward the killing of innocent people? Of innocent children?

We had barely digested the horror of the Sydney siege and today we have another horror to wrap our mind around. Today we woke to the news that while we slept, something horrible took place on the other side of the world in Pakistan. Taliban militants attacked a school in the northern city of Peshawar, killing 132 children.

Image courtesy of IB Times

132 innocent children dead as they sat in their school.

132 children who will not go home today.

132 children who will never grow up, laugh, cry, marry, have children, grow old.

132 families destroyed forever.

132 little voices that will never be heard in their homes again.

Where’s the logic in such an attack? How can you do something even the devil would be ashamed of and pretend it’s in the name of God? I do not know which God you believe in but the God of Mohammad, the God of Jesus, the God of Moses, He would condemn the perpetrators of such a heinous crime to the deepest pits of Hell.

Do you even know what Islam means?? Islam means ‘peace’. It is the religion of peace damn it! Islam does not condone violence! Killing anyone who is not actively attacking you on a battlefield is a sin! Killing children does not get you into heaven you depraved assholes! You don’t even need to believe in God to know that killing innocent children is just wrong!

I am not a violent person, the sight of blood generally makes me swoon, but the animals who attack and kill defenseless children should be lined up and shot in the head. Let them go to the Hell they think they are exempt from. Let them burn in the Hellfire that they have earned with their deeds.

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YOLO My Foot!

In the world of hashtags and short attention spans, the ideology of #YOLO seems to be just what the doctor ordered. It's simple, self-explanatory, has mass appeal and is easy to tweet about.

YOLO

For some reason though, it really REALLY annoys the hell out of me.

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