The idea of a 'good' vs a 'bad' mother gets thrown around a lot these days. Everyone online and offline seems to have their two cents to add on the topic, making you wonder what exactly is the magical mix of perfect ingredients that make a good mother. Is it like the fabled recipe of sugar and spice and everything nice or is it perhaps more complex than that?
Is it the neatness of our child or how clean they are? Or is it all about good manners and good grades? Is it what and how you teach them? Or about how pretty their clothes are? Is it maybe how you only make all natural baby food at home and never get the store bought stuff or about how money is no option when buying various foods for your little one? Is it maybe about how much money you spend on that amazing nursery furniture to make the perfect baby's room or perhaps about how much effort you put into that DIY nursery wall art? Maybe it's how you sacrificed your career/social life to be a stay at home mom, or how you sacrifice time with your babies so you can work, earn a living and give them a better life? Perhaps good mothers are the ones who spend the time and effort required for homeschooling. Or are they the ones who send their children to public school because they are afraid they won't teach their children well enough at home?
Maybe it's all of the above, or perhaps it's some combination of some of them. Or maybe, just maybe, what makes a good mother isn't any of these overt things, but rather one simple little thing: Worrying. Worrying about what is best for our children, about whether we are doing a good enough job, about our decisions. Worrying about whether or not we are good mothers is what makes us good mothers.