What’s in a Name?

midlife crisis

So apparently, I’m having a mid-life crisis in my twenties. Way to stay ahead of the curve Sally.

Simply put I’m going through a phase in my life where it just seems like I have no control over anything, where too many things seem to be going wrong and life as a whole just seems to be taking some form of sadistic pleasure in seeing what else it can throw at me before I go bonkers (to be fair, it doesn’t really take a lot to make me go bonkers at the best of times so I might be overreacting a bit). All of these things (which I might blog about eventually if I want to bore my readers to tears) of course lead to a lovely state of constant anxiety and stress. Hopefully I won’t give myself a heart attack before I’m thirty (which might not be the worst thing because I’ll never have to go through the oh-my-god-I’m-turning-30 meltdown).

So all this stressing over what I have no control over got me to ask myself that what exactly do I have control over?Β What can I change in order to at least feel that I have control over something in my life? Get a tattoo? Nah, too permanent. Chop off my hair and go for an edgy new ‘do? Um, I need grief counselling if my hair dresser cuts of so much as an extra inch when I go in for a trim so no, I doubt getting a short cut will help me lower my blood pressure. Buy a flashy new car? No, I’m not that old. Get a nose piercing? Nope, not that young either.

control freak

After contemplating everything from taking up sky diving as a hobby to rearranging all my furniture, I finally settled on the one thing I might actually be willing to change around a bit: this blog of course! And what better way to take control than to change the blog name? What’s in a name? My sanity apparently. But am I ready for something as big as a name change though? Do I really want to do the blogging equivalent of dying my hair purple out of misplaced rebellion only to sheepishly dye it back to its original colour when I realise I don’t like it anymore? Dear God, am I actually giving myself anxiety over the very act that was supposed to help me alleviate stress??

Because being overweight is better than a stress ulcer! Right?

I think perhaps my stress addled brains and I need to have a serious discussion on the pros and cons of giving myself a stress induced ulcer worrying about things I can’t possibly change. Also, if changing my blog name (which can be changed back at the drop of a hat) is giving me so much stress, maybe I should refrain from making any major life decisions just now.

So yes, maybe I’m not ready for the big guns just yet. I’ll just stick to something small, like changing my tagline. I doubt anyone will even notice that it’s different and I’ll get rid of my urges as well. Score! Now if only dealing with stress was that easy…


So how do you deal with stress dear readers?


31 thoughts on “What’s in a Name?

  1. Good times, I just did the, “I can’t believe, I’m 40!” thing and still remember how I felt in my twenties. From one overwhelmed mother to another, it does get easier and my way of handling stress now seems too simple, deep breaths and on certain occasions, dessert. πŸ˜‰


      1. But it’s got to be good chocolate… In fact, you’ve just reminded me that I had hidden a bar in my desk drawer. And it’s still there! Thank you.


  2. Haha, I am sorry for your stress but this was a quite funny post! I love your bold move of changing the tag line!! πŸ™‚ one thing I do when I’m stressed is try to think about all the wonderful blessings I have in life and it helps in putting things into perspective. Easier said than done though! πŸ™‚


  3. There is a (legitimate) thing called a quarter life crisis so you aren’t alone! I’m going through the “i’m 34 without kids how long can i wait before it’s too late” thing. Not exactly quarter life time-wise but I did go through a nice existential crisis in my mid-20s.
    A big stress reducer for me is exercise, if i have time, and if i don’t have time i need to not stress about not having time. hmmm. If the tub is clean i’ll do a 15 min epsom salt soak with a glass of wine. The one i’ve been told to try, which i haven’t, is to physically write out a list of your stressors and eliminate the ones you can, and pick out the ones you can change.


    1. Good to know I’m not alone! The Epsom salt soak sounds good, I think I’ll try that in the near future. I agree on the last one though: writing out your stressors, etc is easier said then done! Exercise always helps in stress relief as well but with a 5month old to deal with, I just can’t find time to exercise anymore! I miss it though…


  4. My favorite line of your post was this: “to be fair, it doesn’t really take a lot to make me go bonkers at the best of times so I might be overreacting a bit.” Yeah, that’s me too, but remember, it is OKAY to have emotions. Let yourself have them. More and more, I have to remind myself of this so I don’t feel guilty about not being perfect because I’m upset about other things not being perfect. Hang in there!


  5. The first thing I thought of as an answer was of course chocolate/dessert, but then I realized that I have chocolate/dessert every day no matter how I’m feeling, so… I’m not sure how I really deal with stress, I think I just give myself a ton of shoulder tension, and just try to not worry. And the chocolate comes eventually.


  6. This post was great. Not that it’s great that you’re going through tons of stress! But, remember, you do have a new little one at home, and I remember those feelings shortly after where I felt like I needed to turn everything upside-down and get elbow deep into SOMETHING. I’ll be turning 30 next year, and I’m already trying to approach that with some grace (and hopefully, some alcohol)

    Love what you have done with your blog. Keep it up!


    1. Thanks Ashley! It always helps to vent when stressed and get it out of your system to I guess this post was my way of getting it out of my system. Hopefully this too shall pass πŸ™‚


  7. I use exercise to manage stress on a daily basis, but when the going gets really tough? Its dark chocolate with spicy chiles and a robust red wine! Yum.

    And as a long time skydiver, I also do recommend a skydive. Jumping out of an airplane can really put things in perspective!


    1. Sky diving is one remedy for stress I haven’t tried, but I don’t know whether I have the guts to do it! The most adventurous thing I’ve done is cliff diving and that only once


  8. I have done the- Nothing in my life is under my control so I’m going to move my bed to the other side of the room at 1 in the morning thing. It oddly helps. More often I eat dark chocolate, drink Diet Coke and blog! πŸ™‚


    1. Changing something small and seemingly unimportant is surprisingly good for the soul πŸ™‚ Dark chocolate of course doesn’t hurt either! I think I’m going to be making a lot of changes on this here blog in the near future :p


  9. This will totally help me to get through this week!

    I mean, this is so me… I’m 26, I have a 7 year old son, I’ve been almost 10 years with my boyfriend and I’ll get my diploma next year (I hope so!). There are so many things to process and so many things to do, yet, as you say, I barely have any control over one thing or two of that list…
    What I try to do whenever I have time to relief that stress is riding bike for 40 minutes or so and that feels awesome, they say exercising os the best medicine!


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